The Bar

So this is way off base but in the same ballpark as some of my other blogs.  Friday night I went to the gym and worked out with my trainer and then Nikki, a friend, invited me to go out w/ her.  She came over and waited patiently while I showered from the gym and went to to the high school to retrieve my child for me.  We went to CJ's Sports Bar which is a little dive place in the Springs but has great karoake (did I even spell that right?)  I like CJ's b/c interesting things happen when I go there yet I'm protected by the people I know there (I haven't been going very long but it's like the small town pool hall where everyone knows you.)  The last time we went a little Mexican guy sat next to me asking me questions and generally trying to pick me up.  It was weird b/c it was so soon after becoming single.  I  haven't been single in almost 15 years so this was a new experience for me.

Well, we went on Friday and got a spot at the bar.  I ordered my usual Coors Light (don't knock it - I wasn't supposed to have anything.)  Pretty soon Nikki is up singing her song and doing her thing and a guy comes up next to me and starts chatting w/ me.  Mind you I'm not very social - in fact I've been called anti-social b/c I have WAY too many issues to be allowed in public :) 

I don't think I've laughed that hard in way too long but it was fun.  I didn't feel threatened or overwhelmed.  He was just trying to make me laugh :)  He bought me a drink and left me alone.  A few minutes later he'd pop back by to chat some more.  He asked me what I thought of yesterday which I thought was a strange question...I told him I tried not to live in yesterday but learned to focus on tomorrow!  He pulled a piece of paper from his wallet while I watched that said the same thing!  It was a little bizarre.

Bizarre things have happened all my life so this wasn't that bizarre in the grand scheme of things - just off center.

I believe in the big picture and everything happens for a reason.  When I was 19 I walked into a concert in Washington, DC with a friend to see Candlebox b/c I had connected w/ their song, "Far Behind."  Little did I know I was walking into my destiny that cold night in December...I met Mike when a friend of his tried to pick me up and he threw me on top of the crowd to crowd surf.  One thing led to another and now I'm once again single and aware that everything is connected...

Do I believe I met my soulmate on Friday night?  No and I'm not looking for a soulmate.  Do I think God brings people into your life, no matter how long they are there, for a reason?  Yes and I believe Steven was sent on Friday to make me laugh and remind me that life is supposed to be fun :) 

Get out there and enjoy it - nothing good comes from looking at the past except to learn from your mistakes and move on!